How To Master Change
It is often said that the only things in life
that are inevitable are death and taxes. Well, you can add a third item to the
things that are inevitable, and that is change. And change is happening faster
than at any time in human history.
When the Berlin Wall came down and the Worldwide
Web went up, the world changed forever. The Industrial Age came to an end and
the Communication Age began. If “the good old days” ever did exist, they are
gone forever. We are caught up in a perpetual motion of change, swirling all
around us, that we will never be able to avoid. In other words, this rate of
change is here to stay.
To deal effectively with change you cannot let
it frustrate or upset you. You cannot attempt to minimize or avoid change.
Instead, you have to learn how to deal with change, and use it to your
advantage.
It begins with acceptance. Change is an
essential element of life itself, yet we almost instinctively resist it. Most
people believe that if they ignore change, it won't happen. That if they ignore
change, somehow time will turn back to the way things were years ago. But that
is not going to happen.
Change is occurring so quickly, in fact, that we
no longer have the luxury of adapting to it gradually. Instead of resisting
change, we have to develop the habit of welcoming and working with it. The
future belongs to those who anticipate change and have a plan to respond to it.
We'll never be able to completely control change, but we can manage our
participation in it and our reaction to it.
The most valuable quality your can ever develop
to deal with change is flexibility. You must form the habit of remaining
open-minded and adaptable to new information and circumstances. When things go
wrong and problems come up, as they often do, instead of becoming upset and
frustrated, look for the benefit that is always contained in the change.
In order to be able to master change, you always
have to remain calm and keep your wits about you in the midst of unexpected
turbulence. First, take a deep breath, relax, and then assess the situation
objectively. It is always important to keep yourself calm and unemotional. You
can do this, by asking questions and seeking information when things don’t work
out the way you would like them to.
Whenever an unexpected change or setback occurs,
successful people immediately focus their mind on where they want to be at a
future time. This future vision is something that he or she has planned and
given a lot of thought to, so it is fairly easy to conjure up at a moment’s
notice.
Since your conscious mind can only hold one
thought at a time, when you make a habit of continuously thinking about your
goal or your future vision, your mind immediately becomes calm and positive.
You feel in control of the situation and your life. Successful men and woman
always choose the future over the past. They never loose time and energy by
looking around for someone to blame or criticize. They keep themselves
performing at their best by thinking and talking about their desired future.
The critical issue in dealing with change is
having control. Most of your stress and unhappiness in life comes as a result
of feeling out of control in a particular area in your life. If you think about
the times or places where you feel the very best about yourself, you will
notice a high degree of control in those places. One of the reasons why you
like to come home after a trip is because, after you walk through your front
door, you feel completely in control of your environment.
The only thing you have complete control over is
content of your conscious mind. So, for you to effectively deal with change,
you must have full control over thoughts. Since change is inevitable and
continuous, it is how you think about what is happening to you that will be the
most important factor in determining how change will affect you. How you think
about what is happening to you will determine whether you will use change to
your advantage or let it work to your disadvantage.
To succeed in the Communication Age, you must
become a “change master.” You have to learn to welcome and embrace change. You
must be able to ride the tides of change rather than trying to swim against
them. You can do this by taking control of the direction of change in your life
and assuring that it is predominantly positive and brings about the
improvements you want in your life.
You can greatly increase your stability during
these often turbulent times of change by setting goals and then making a
detailed written plan to achieve them. Goals enable you to control the direction
of change. When you have goals, change becomes planned and deliberate, instead
of random and haphazard. Goals assure that the changes that take place in your
life are primarily self-determined to be positive and move you toward what you
want to achieve, rather than blow you off course.
When you have a clear vision of where you’re
going and what you want to accomplish, you develop resilience, which is the
ability to bounce back rather than break. You develop a positive attitude and
you become the type of person who is resistant to the negative emotions that
affect people who do not have goals or any direction in their life.
One of the best ways to deal with change is to simply to accept the change as a reality. Acceptance is
the opposite of rejection or resistance. Acceptance keeps your mind calm and
positive. The minute you accept that a change has occurred, you immediately
become more capable of dealing with the change and turning it to your
advantage.
Often, a change signals that your plans are
incomplete or that you might be heading in the wrong direction. Serious
changes, which seemingly create real problems, are often signals that you are
on the wrong track. Instead of resisting change, like a pine tree that snaps in
a strong wind, you need to learn to bend with change, like willow tree. Once
you learn to do this, you’ll find that change is a healthy and positive step
toward achieving your goals.
If you look at any change, you will always find
something good and beneficial in it for you. Always look for the valuable
lesson that is contained within every change. What is the hidden advantage that
you can turn into your benefit? Could this change save you from a much bigger
problem in the future? Since you mind can hold only one thought at a time,
always force yourself to look for the positive aspect
of any change. When you do this, you’ll keep your mind clear, and you’ll keep
your attitude optimistic and confident.
Successful men and women are always able to deal
effectively in a rapidly changing situation. The higher up you go, the greater
your income and responsibilities will be and in turn, the faster change will be
all around you. Your ability to function with calmness, clarity, and quiet
assurance in every situation will determine your success in times of change
more than anything else. If you are going to be successful in the Communication
Age, you have to accept change, improve upon it, and then move on to the next
situation. As you continue to do this, you will have such a wonderful feeling
of self-control and self-determination that your whole life will be bright and
positive. The results you can achieve in every area of your life will be
unlimited.
Copyright©2005 by Joe Love and JLM & Associates, Inc. All rights reserved worldwide.
Joe Love draws on his 25 years of experience helping both individuals and companies build their businesses, increase profits, and achieve total success. He is the founder and CEO of JLM & Associates, a consulting and training organization, specializing in personal and business development. Through his seminars and lectures, Joe Love addresses thousands of men and women each year, including the executives and staffs of many businesses around the world on the subjects of leadership, achievement, goals, strategic business planning, and marketing. Joe is the author of three books, Starting Your Own Business, Finding Your Purpose In Life, and The Guerrilla Marketing Workbook.
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